Developing Interpersonal Skills: Tips to Effective Speaking
When we are trying out speaking in front of people, we have to be mindful of how we deliver our words. This skill will not grow overnight and it only improves with constant practice.
We have many forms of communication; it could be verbal, written, and it can take the form of electronic communication.
Here is a list that you can follow in order to develop your skills in speaking:
1. Be Clear and Concise – Speak Directly to the Point
When we are speaking about a certain topic, we should not let our words run into a pointless loop. What matters when you are trying to convey your thoughts is the quality and not the quantity.
2. In Order to Prove Your Point, Use Examples
People see different things in different ways. What’s true for me might not be true to you, and what’s understandable to me might be incomprehensible to you.
By using examples, you can connect the schema of your listener(s) and then bridging the gap towards the thought that you want to convey. Clear examples can also clear up misunderstandings on the listener’s end, and it can educate your listeners with new constructive knowledge.
3. Be Polite
Attitude plays a big role in speaking. If you speak in a polite and a non-passive-aggressive manner, you will tend to look charismatic and nice to listen to. You should use polite gestures and postures, and use ethically-proper words to make your listeners comfortable.
4. Be Respectful
If you want your listeners to respect your own opinion, you should respect theirs too. Try to acknowledge their thoughts and treat it with respect by replying with constructive responses.
Through this method, you will be able to build a solid rapport with your listener and respect each other’s thoughts as you go along in your conversation.
5. Do Not Mistake Arrogance From Confidence
A fine line exists every time we are trying to speak. It is a line that separates arrogance from confidence. Speaking clearly and confidently without breaking a sweat can be considered confidence. But when you force your ideals on anyone (as if you’re heavily implying something), that is arrogance.
Always be conscious and watch out if you’re overstepping that line, and try to get a feel of your listener’s reactions.
6. Be Dynamic
Listening for a painstaking amount of time can be boring to most people. Try to read the mood and adjust to it accordingly. Try getting a feel of their mood and then start there. Build your momentum from the ground up after you get “in-tune” with them.